Don’t Let Life Discourage You

By on April 25, 2018
Bella Petite Lifestyle Advice

Gurlfriends ABC producer/writer and Relationship expert Candace Chambers-Belida and Bella Petite Magazine Editor-in-Chief Ann Lauren share their thoughts on love, loss, and life.

Talking with a special (Gurl) friend (Ann Lauren) the other day over a great cup of cappuccino. It was fantastic how we mused over the past events in our life. We both found that we had some incredibly amazing life moments, and yet we had some bittersweet moments that seemed more than hard to swallow.

Bella Petite gurlfriends over cappuccino share their personal feelings on love, loss, and life.

Bella Petite girlfriends over cappuccino share their personal feelings on love, loss, and life.

We debated over whether or not life in the past was better now and was it the past that appeared to have captured our hearts or rather the lessons learned that made us the resilient women we are today. The jury is still out on that one!

We shared our exhilarating whirlwind romances, drama driven break-ups, and even moments that only one could remember as quick fleeting rendezvous.

What brought tears to our eyes the most was the love lost, whether it was that painful break-up or losing the one you loved to life’s inevitable- death.

My girlfriend has endured the pain of losing her husband (and son) both of whom she frantically desperately tried to save one fateful morning. For her, the pain of loss, love, and life is especially challenging and is a heavy burden on her heart that she carries daily.  What I have come to appreciate about my girlfriend is her authenticity, she is one of the strongest, kindest and inspiring women I know. She is always there for you, a true friend. 

Unfortunately, both my girlfriend and I have suffered the ultimate loss of losing our soulmates to death.

Bella Petite Love, Loss and PainMy recollection of the moment when I received the chilling news that my husband David had cancer giving him only two months to live, was like falling off a cliff in slow motion. No matter how you try to be strong, there are occurrences in life that cut you to the core. I remember those days and months after he passed away, where it was easy to pull the sheets over my head and even harder to get out of the bed to face the world without him.

As both of our water-teared eyes and choked up emotions stirred us, there was no doubt in our mind that life has a way of throwing you a curve ball when you least expect it. My friend and I discovered that in looking back on some of the hard moments there had to of been an incredible supernatural-Godly force; that seemed to of lifted us up and pulled us out of the abyss of loneliness and pain.

Bella Petite talks about life sorrows.

Bella Petite on love, loss, and life sorrows.

No matter how hard it is to face some of life’s’ problems, one fact remains, crises is an indelible part of life. And sooner or later we all face difficulties that are hard to bear. Just know that you are not alone, at this moment. No matter what you are facing, this is not yours forever.

Now is the time that you empower yourself with everything you have inside because you cannot let “Life- the Sorrows, the Disappointments, and the Pain and Loss- Kill Your Passion, Kill Your Joy. Bottom line- Don’t Let Life Kill You.”

Bella Petite Love, Loss and Life

“Love, Loss and Life.”

As my girlfriend and I concluded, we are stronger and more sensitive to things, and we have a special appreciation for life, that birthed through our pain.

We agreed that no matter what curve balls are thrown knocking us down that is virtually a life lesson, and it’s more about how we pick ourselves back up, allowing our hearts to be big enough to love again, prosper and that in itself is sincerely worth living for.

Relationship Expert – Candace Chambers-Belida Copyright © 

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  1. Constance Elmore

    June 10, 2016 at 11:01 am

    Having gone through a bad break-up myself, I can relate to what Candice wrote. I love the advice. Keep up the good work. You are inspiring many people around the world to never give up.

  2. Angela Stiles

    July 11, 2016 at 6:55 am

    Candace has the unique gift of expression and her journey inspires everyone she touches!
    Great article!

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