Bella Petite Chicago Regional Director and newly Contributing Writer Jennifer Bollinger.
As a petite model working in the business of modeling and entertainment, I know the word “rejection” far to well. When I was first starting out the “door slamming in the face” was a bit of a sting. Takes a strong back bone and a lot of perseverance to survive this industry, but I would brush myself off and get back in the game. Why?
Simple, I believe in myself. Have I had days of doubt, sure, but underneath it all, I believe I should be here and pursuing an industry that I love. I have put my soul into being an artist, since I was a child. Not for the fame, or the money, but because it is my passion. As I have grown on this path, I learned to take all those so-called “rejections” and work them to my advantage.
Something of value even if it was small was sure to come out of every experience of dismissal. I learned to focus on the lessons and improve myself each time. Rejection then has become my friend. Although I would say, I feel that I am accepted far more than rejected. When it does happen, I greet it with, “what are you here to teach me?”
Rejection can also be seen as the universe’s benevolent way of redirecting our lives for our highest purpose. As if the universe has a friendly way of saying, “sorry that situation is not your calling, so I must shut this door in order for you to go down a different path.”
Life is all perception, once we learn to “see” we can find the grace, the lessons and the blessings in each situation of rebuff. As humans we want so much to be accepted, so the moment of repudiation leaves us feeling less than the light that we truly are.
The secret to dealing with “rejection” is to delve deep inside and hold on to your dreams the beauty of our essence. Than we can see that there is really no such thing as being refused, it is the act of being redirected to serve our truest purpose. I wouldn’t label that as rejection. I would call that an act of grace. See rejection as an art, and work it to your advantage, then it will become a game you are bound to win. Written by: Jennifer Bollinger
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