ARE YOU A LIPSTICK BULLY? By Maria Gamb Bella Petite’s “Business Expert” and newly contributing writer!
Most believe that competitiveness in business is an activity engaged in amongst the males in the society. Women, the loving, nurturing souls that we are couldn’t possibly take part in this activity, right? This is, in fact not so.
You might be surprised to learn that in a recent study 40% of the bullies in the professional arena are women. The target? 70% of the time its other women! Shocking, isn’t it?
As the perception of the current economic situation tightens the level ofcompetitiveness has skyrocketed. In general people have been feeling that there simply isn’t enough to go around and that they must fight and compete to keep their position.
The correct interpretation of “competition” is to take something away from another person before they can get it. However, the caveat of competitiveness is that if you are someone who is doing the utmost to “take” from another then be warned, it will ultimately be “taken” from you. This is an example of how the “Law of Cause and Effect” can operate in a negative manner.
This is the vicious cycle of competition. Once you’re in, it literally feeds on itself as the fear to win at any cost by pummeling your opponent takes over. This is the ego in full force driving you to compromise your values and take actions that you may not, on a normal day participate in. It is the belief that there is not enough to go around and you must get yours before someone else does.
Implying gender stereotypes
Glaring at one another in a hostile manner
Giving others the silent treatment
Rude or disrespectful treatment
Perpetuating false rumors
When one engages in the competitive cycle they literally spend more time looking over their shoulder rather than looking forward to creating and collaborating together. It is a waste of time and energy for all parties.
We are asked to spend more time creating rather than competing with one another. When one is in the creative process, more opportunities arise, not less. Doors begin to open and something new and magical can come of joint efforts.
Collaboration is the kryptonite for competitiveness.
This is applicable for all genders.
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